IT DOESN’T. The person might think it, but how can trauma feel?
Does the person feel it? Now that is a question.
If this sounds all a little cryptic, it really isn’t meant to.
Writing this was sparked after a comment I received from a friend who listened to the podcast with Martin Gillespie. They wrote: “You sound like you still have some trauma when you talk about diagnosis.”
At first, I explained “That’s not there to bother me any more. I share it to explain my passion now. I now see the power of the word (not only spoken but also THOUGHT!) Those are the words that have the power to heal or harm. Like the immune (self-defence) system has the power to heal or harm. BUT, that is only when a person believes those words, that make up their thoughts!
Then, I shared this much more considered thought:
“I wonder if what you heard were my emotions? That would make sense to me. I believe I have always been a person who ‘shows their emotions’. The only time I seriously failed to do that was exactly the time when the ‘rogue seed’ of the tumour was allowed to ‘germinate’. That germination took place simply because my self defence radar went down, because I allowed the stress from the environment to filter into my mind and body.” I went on to explain how it is that I know it to be the stress.
But the point of sharing this is to link it back to the major reason for this post, which is:
I passionately believe that trauma (which is extremely subjective) can lead to a person blocking the neuroendocrine/neurochemical pathways, responsible for emotions. Consequently, the person can ‘present as: “he or she is very unemotional” or ‘that person lacks feelings”, or even “they’re very unreceptive”. I say ‘unreceptive’ rather than ‘unresponsive’, very deliberately.
When a person is ‘unreceptive’, do they have an ability to respond? I very much doubt it. Plus, being unreceptive, & looking through my neuro-immunologist ‘eyes’, has very major illness generating ramifications. It is to do with how the whole “self-defence”/immune and Neuro-endocrine system can be thrown out of balance.
Although trauma is very subjective, does that mean we can’t do anything about it. Of course not. For me, there is one particular unintentional way a person can be traumatised, which is why I wrote:
“I now see the power of the word (not only spoken but also THOUGHT!) Those are the words that have the power to heal or harm. Like the immune (self-defence) system, which also has the power to heal or harm.
BUT, that is only when a person BELIEVES those words, that make up their thoughts!”
Next time you speak to a person, especially when living through life-impacting news, remember, it’s not just your words that can leave them with hope, your words can generate words of hashtag#hope to pass through their minds, which then trigger those constructive emotions they feel with. And guess what, you will see with your own eyes, that they are feeling again. 🙏
Does the person feel it? Now that is a question.
If this sounds all a little cryptic, it really isn’t meant to.
Writing this was sparked after a comment I received from a friend who listened to the podcast with Martin Gillespie. They wrote: “You sound like you still have some trauma when you talk about diagnosis.”
At first, I explained “That’s not there to bother me any more. I share it to explain my passion now. I now see the power of the word (not only spoken but also THOUGHT!) Those are the words that have the power to heal or harm. Like the immune (self-defence) system has the power to heal or harm. BUT, that is only when a person believes those words, that make up their thoughts!
Then, I shared this much more considered thought:
“I wonder if what you heard were my emotions? That would make sense to me. I believe I have always been a person who ‘shows their emotions’. The only time I seriously failed to do that was exactly the time when the ‘rogue seed’ of the tumour was allowed to ‘germinate’. That germination took place simply because my self defence radar went down, because I allowed the stress from the environment to filter into my mind and body.” I went on to explain how it is that I know it to be the stress.
But the point of sharing this is to link it back to the major reason for this post, which is:
I passionately believe that trauma (which is extremely subjective) can lead to a person blocking the neuroendocrine/neurochemical pathways, responsible for emotions. Consequently, the person can ‘present as: “he or she is very unemotional” or ‘that person lacks feelings”, or even “they’re very unreceptive”. I say ‘unreceptive’ rather than ‘unresponsive’, very deliberately.